Gentle Femdom – Kaylee Graves

Words of Encouragement

siteadmin — Mon, 23 Nov 2020 21:26:52 +0000

Give in to me without hesitation or shame. Share all the dirty secrets you’ve been hiding away. Bring it all into the light and let me lift it off your shoulders.

When I first toyed with the idea of creating clipstores for my own video content, I tried to emulate the Femdoms that were already popular on each site, as well as the local ones I personally knew already. They’d all achieved success with their brands and so I could obviously do it too if I followed their formula, right?

In theory, yes, but reality is much more complicated than that. These other women were very ‘old guard’ in their approach to Domination. Sadistic. Manipulative. Cold. They were cruel authoritarian figures who could scold you at every turn until it feels like there’s nothing in the world that you could do right. I loved watching them work, just soaking in how they could cut a man down and show him his rightful place underfoot.

But I burnt myself out trying to force those cruel words out of my mouth and struggled to keep my expressions stern and cold. There’s a natural joy that can’t be kept from spreading across my face whenever I know that I turn someone on. I’m sure you can imagine how that didn’t quite fit with the Domina persona I was trying to build…

It took me a very long time to accept that I could still portray myself as fun, loving, and comforting, as well as dominant. Just because I hadn’t seen much content like that available yet, didn’t mean that people weren’t looking for it! So I pivoted away from the scary sadist persona to embrace the gentleness and tenderness that I prefer.

And what a difference it’s made! I think that it really shines through that I’m having fun and enjoying myself now, which in turn leads to my clients also enjoying their time with me more too!

Are you ready to take a look at some of my favorite encouraging clips? Check these out:

Encouraged by My Tits

mp4 • XX minutes

I know you don’t -really- need any more encouragement to jerk that meat of yours, but I look so hot with my delicate hands squeezing my big supple breasts and I love to watch you squirm to keep your orgasm under control as you watch me play with my tits. Can you hold back while I enjoy stripping off my clothes? Will you spurt when I pinch my nipples? Better not. I’m not finished enjoying myself yet.

I Love Being Your Porn

mp3 • 13 minutes

I know you look at me online. I know you look at pictures of me, videos of me. I know you perv to me and stroke your dick to me. I know you cum to me. It’s ok. It really is. I won’t tell anyone. It’s our secret. While you’re listening to this, pull up your favorite photos or videos of me. Play with that beautiful dick of yours and listen to me count down just for you.

A Message To My Lucky Boy

MP3 • 38 minutes

Hello, lucky boy. Using only my sultry voice, I am going to fuck you. Can you imagine a mind being so dirty, it can get you off without a single touch?
There are only two rules that you have to follow when you listen to this file. The first is: do as I say; if I tell you to picture something, do it, if I tell you to get in a certain position, do it. The second rule is: no touching your cock. You’ve got to let it free.

Sometimes a simple shift in perspective is all it takes to achieve a much-needed release. And giving myself the space to explore freely, instead of being stifled by preconceived notions, has led me to grow in pleasantly unexpected ways. Every day that I practice this, I feel surer and more confident in my abilities.

Below, I’ve included a list of ways that I try to make a conscious effort to ENCOURAGE my clients during a session.
And I would like to CHALLENGE YOU to take a look at examples like this in your own life and see how your attitude shifts when you bring in more encouragement to your life!

Instead of SHAMING for these things:

Let’s ENCOURAGE with these:

Self Image: Talking down about physical attributes like size, shape, weight, height. Some common themes would be SPH, fat shaming, body hair, body odors

Acknowledge short comings without dismissing them and search for ways to make them “excel” at having those traits. Can they be the teeny-tiniest? Can they be the smelliest, the hairiest, the hungriest? The best at being the worst _____ I’ve ever seen.

Sexual Prowess: Shaming for lack of sexual experience or confidence with regards to approaching women or men sexually. Most often they’ll self-identify themselves to me as virgins, cuckolds, or beta bitches.

Be excited at the prospect of teaching them the ‘proper’ way (MY way). Treating them like a blank canvas that I have full control over. Making contests to see if they can beat my techniques with my alpha studs.

Stamina: Being ridiculed for being unable to appropriately sexually satisfy either Me or their partner. These would often be ‘one pump chumps’, guys with ‘useless’ dicks, and CBT enthusiasts.

Challenge them to try to entertain me with their creativity before they receive gratification, if I’m aware of the situation beforehand. If not, then pushing them to continue anyways or focus on cleanup as a way to entertain me.

Sexual Orientation: Focusing on social stigmas against homosexual fantasies. Sissies interested in feminization, bi-curious folks and people who aren’t out to others or even to themselves yet

Act as a mentor, to teach them how to be as beautiful and sexually alluring as I am. Teaching, guiding and lifting them up as they aspire to be on My level.

Looking for some more of Me? Why don’t you try these:

Gentle Guidance

siteadmin — Thu, 18 Jun 2020 15:36:19 +0000

It’s all a matter of paying attention, being awake in the present moment, and not expecting a huge payoff. The magic in this world seems to work in whispers and small kindnesses.
-Charles de Lint

Even if we resist it sometimes, everyone in this world can benefit from a little guidance.
Sometimes people come to me with a specific goal in mind for what they want to be encouraged to complete, but most often, I see people who aren’t sure of what they need and don’t know where to start.

That’s when I employ a soothing voice, a soft whisper in your ear, to encourage you to go juuuuuust a little bit further with me. I walk you along one step at a time, instead of racing full steam ahead into something you’re unprepared for.
I like to sweetly nudge at the boundaries of a standard vanilla session and pay attention to where I see a reaction while I playfully tease or toy. I’ve found it to be a much more enjoyable experience to make these discoveries slowly and carefully, instead of barreling along into the depths of a kink that you had only been tip-toeing in so far.

Yes, there is a place for harsh and stern Dominas whose cold exteriors match their deliciously sadistic tendencies and their perfectly accessorized latex outfits. In the past, I’ve tried it on for size (and looked fabulous if I don’t say so myself…) but the inherent intimidation and aloofness that comes along with that kind of authoritarian trope just wasn’t for me.
In essence, I want our time together to be fun and enjoyable, so if I were to try to turn your fantasies against you and reinforcing the shameful feeling around your deepest secrets, that would be counter-productive. I’d much rather build you up, nurture your fantasies, and encourage you to explore them in a safer way with me.

Below, I’ve selected a few of my favorite files where I explore boundaries and guide you to try something that may be new to you. If you’ve been struggling and aren’t sure if you are ready to take one of your fantasies a step further, I’d recommend that you take some time to relax and listen to my voice.
Hopefully, you’ll be pleasantly surprised with our little adventure together!

Guided Relaxation with Kaylee

mp3 file • 40 minutes

The stress of your daily life is just too much for you to take and I know that you’re looking for that perfect, sheer relaxation. I found that there is no better way to reach it than through sexual satisfaction. I do not want you to move a muscle, though. I want you to get your sexual satisfaction hands free. Are you ready to be guided by Me?

Moan for Me, with her next to you

mp3 file • 18 minutes

Risk and reward play a big part in arousal. How much risk will you take for the reward? Breathe, relax, and sink into the fantasy of Me and you, and her asleep. Will she wake while I take what I want from you? Will you be able to control yourself long enough for the pleasure to subside? Shhhh stay quiet, until you can’t anymore!

First Time CEI

mp4 file • 7 minutes

It’s time to confess to me. It’s going to feel so much better once you say it: “I want to eat my own cum”. Let me guide you through this confusing part of your life and help encourage you to become what you were always meant to be.

You may be wondering about how to explore this style of domination further, and that’s normal, especially if you’re only used to the media portrayal of a Domme as a harsh and authoritarian fetishist. Some keywords/tags that I find helpful to add on to your searches for files with this theme are:

Encouragement
Gentle Femdom (or shortened to GFD)
Soft
Sweet
Sensual
Comforting
Good boy

For example, the search results for “Femdom JOI” and “Sweet Femdom JOI” would be drastically different styles. Or, something like “Small Penis” would usually bring up SPH files, but changing it to “Small Penis Encouragement” completely alters the search results.
What kind of combinations can you come up with? What about something like “Sensual Pegging for Good Boy”? Try it out for yourself!

Lastly, I’d like to challenge you to think about the people in your everyday life who have taken a gentle approach to guidance. Maybe it was a teacher, a mentor, a co-worker, a friend, or even a stranger. What kind of impact did that person make on your life, and do you find yourself smiling when you think about them now?

It may seem silly to some for an online domme like myself to want to impact your life, but that’s exactly what I aim to do! I love the idea that I’ve made a lasting impression on the people who’ve played with me and that I’ve brought joy and insight into an aspect of your life that you may not share with very many people.
Plus I love the idea that you’ll be thinking about me over and over again every time you slip a little bit deeper into your fantasies….

Sweet and Seductive

siteadmin — Thu, 18 Jun 2020 14:13:27 +0000

“That soft seduction of need and want, an equation of dependence that eases under the skin, so slow and sweet, only to lay a man open at the very time he most needs his strength.”
– Mark Lawrence, Prince of Thrones

It’s no secret that I love attention. I want it. I crave it. I thrive when I get it. So when I say that I love to seduce my clients, it’s because I know that they’ll be handing over their full attention to me.

Even if they don’t intend to, day in and day out I know they’ll be daydreaming about how they want to please me, or what they’ll offer as tribute, or when they’ll be permitted to lay eyes on me again. That sweet ache and the tiny rush that surges through your body when a memory of me sweeps across your mind — it feeds my soul.

Something I didn’t expect when I started my Domme career, is how many people love to be fully aware of their seduction. They’d offer no resistance as I turn on my charms and would welcome the idea of being swept up in a whirlwind of emotions that I tinkered with for my own amusement. Previously, I was used to leaving a wake of blissfully ignorant people behind me while I soaked it all up.

So what are some of the ways that I noticed these people making the most of their experience? Hopefully, you’ll be able to employ some of these ideas as well and change the way you think about the art of seduction…

1. Know your intention

Recognize that you’ve sought my professional services out to experience My seduction on you, not to try to convince me that I need to be with you.
This should be a space where you let go, relax, and just enjoy the experience. Suggestions are helpful to set the tone or themes for our sessions, but if you find yourself trying to control or persuade me, you’re missing the point.

2. Slow your expectations

There’s certainly a place for fast and furious wank sessions, but that kind of smut isn’t going to leave the same kind of lasting impression as a carefully crafted, highly personalized and detailed experience.
It takes time to help you wind your way through all five senses, as well as mental barriers that may be keeping you from surrendering yourself to me. And part of the satisfying nature of seduction, is that it can be barely detectable, until it’s not.

3. Show your enthusiasm

I understand that not everyone is able to do live cam sessions with me, so I don’t always have your facial expressions, body language or audio cues to inform our time together. But that doesn’t mean that there aren’t ways for you to share how you’re feeling.
Leave comments on videos you’ve purchased, or send a private message with a tribute. These small things are a great way to let me know what you like, or what you wish went differently.

Now you may be asking yourself,
why does she even think this ‘art of seduction’ stuff is important?

Well, it’s what separates a quick wank clip that you’ll forget about 20 minutes after your post-nut clarity, from a full-on experience that has the potential to stay with you for a lifetime. And it’s exactly that lifetime’s worth of memories that I’m striving for when I create and curate my content for you.

I love to dig in and find out what kinds of things leave lasting impressions on you. Will it be something as simple as the sound of a kiss and the shape of my lips? Or perhaps the way the sunlight hits a curve along my back, or maybe a breathy whisper of “Good boy” in your ear after a particularly long day. Myself, I’m extremely fond of the power of a perfectly timed smile.

I’ve found that sometimes simplicity is key, especially when it comes to resetting and re-framing your needs. In order to better center your thoughts and your attention, I like to go back to the tools I was naturally given: my feminine body, my musical voice and my creative mind.

Now take a look at these clips where I use only my body, voice and creative mind to bring you closer to the edge of seduction. Let me know what you noticed about your reactions while you watched, and whether there was something that really clicked with you!

Goddess Strips and Make You Weak

MP4 • 14 minutes

I know that you can’t resist me. You always come back to see more of me. You’re so predictable, just like every other desperate loser. That’s ok, I love watching you waste away in front of me! Turn off your brain as I allow you to watch me strip. Forget everything else and become my worshiper as you watch me peel away my clothes. I’ll reveal my true self to you and you’ll finally see that you were always meant to be here worshiping at my feet. Will I grant you a blessing at the end?

Who Knows Best? GFE

MP3 • 11 minutes

You get SOOO worked up over every little thing but I know that you’ll be putty in my hands the second I start to run them along your crotch. So I’m going to take advantage of your little mood swing and send some banter back to you. I bet you’d even let me degrade you by taking my big fat tits out and making you suckle on them in my lap. You like that, don’t you, you big special boy?

Goddess Gives Silent Kisses

MP4 • 5 minutes

Ever since you saw me smile, my lips have been on your mind. You dream about kissing my lips, tasting them. When I bite my lip, it drives you wild and my wet pink tongue send you over the edge. I’ll indulge your fantasy today and let you watch me as I smile, lick my lips and pucker up my lips into soft kisses for you. It’s like a dream come true for you, isn’t it?

I’d like to leave you today with a challenge: Think about a time in your life when you were seduced by a woman. Reflect on the grip she had on you. Did that woman seize that power and toy with you, or did she even notice what kind of a powerful hold she had?

Now can you imagine what I’d do with all of that power?? I’m sure the first thing I’d do is… smile