Kaylee Graves

Celebrating Curves

siteadmin — Tue, 24 Nov 2020 17:01:29 +0000

“Cultivate your curves – they may be dangerous but they won’t be avoided.”
-Mae West

All shapes and sizes of bodies are valid, deserving of love, and should be celebrated. And I think it’s important to remember that the mainstream porn industry often portrays idealized versions of the human body which aren’t necessarily realistic nor attainable.
But let’s be honest, everyone has the capability of having hot kinky sex, or sharing in a toe-curling fantasy that will knock your socks off.

When I first started doing live webcam shows, I wasn’t sure what to expect from my viewers. Would I have to start blocking people left and right to keep my chatroom a safe place from a barrage of insults about my appearance? For years, I’d been told all about how easy it was for people to sling insults anonymously and that cyber-bullying was rampant in the dark corners of the internet… It was enough to make me wary at least.

Thankfully, I’ve had the opposite experience: there are many, MANY more people who want to worship and adore my plump juicy body, than who want to degrade it. I’ve learned that when people are attracted to me, they will jump over themselves at the chance to make me smile when they express it. And those who aren’t, well… they usually don’t even bother interacting with me whatsoever!

I’m surprised at the amount of detail that people can notice about me. There are things I’ve been complimented on which I had never given a second thought. I especially enjoy taking stock of all the soft curves, lines and shapes that my body can make while I move and flex in different poses to emphasize my size or the suppleness of my skin. My body has shown me its resilience, its strength and its beauty in ways I never expected.

So whether it’s Ass, Tits, Bellies or Lips that you’re into,
I encourage you to check out some videos that are focused on exploring the beauty of my curves:

Colorful Panty Try-On

mp4 File • 14 minutes

Watch me try on 4 styles of lacy panties. My perfect ass jiggles every time as I pull the lace up to cover my hairy pussy. Drool as my bush peeks out and I tease you with my soft, creamy skin. Listen closely and you’ll hear my breathing, giggling and moaning in this quiet clip.

Calming Titty Appreciation

mp4 File • 14 minutes

Sink deeper and deeper under my control while you watch me squeeze and tease my supple breasts. Sweet and slightly eerie music plays during this very sensual and calming slo-motion video. Watch my tits in this black spandex fishnet bodysuit and imagine yourself here in front of me. You’re so close you can feel the warmth radiating off of my beautiful body. You can smell the sweet aroma of my perfume as I sway in front of you. And you can feel yourself relaxing into a fog where all that matters is Me.

Good Jeans for Good Boys

mp4 • 21 minutes

Let’s explore a strap-on fantasy while tight denim rubs me in all the right spots! Watch me while I fulfill a special request during a livestream: a try-on haul of my favorite pairs of jeans while going commando. Then let’s see how they look while I pull out my strap-on. Does it make you shiver while I talk about all the filthy things I like to fantasize about?

I’d like to challenge you to reflect on some of these questions today:

When was the last time you remember showing some love to your own body?
What can you do to increase the amount of positive thoughts that you have about your body?
How do you express your affection for other people’s bodies?
Have you ever regretted saying something negative about your own or someone else’s body?

I hope that the next time a negative thought comes along, that you take the time to reassess and refocus your energy into something that brings you joy instead.

Words of Encouragement

siteadmin — Mon, 23 Nov 2020 21:26:52 +0000

Give in to me without hesitation or shame. Share all the dirty secrets you’ve been hiding away. Bring it all into the light and let me lift it off your shoulders.

When I first toyed with the idea of creating clipstores for my own video content, I tried to emulate the Femdoms that were already popular on each site, as well as the local ones I personally knew already. They’d all achieved success with their brands and so I could obviously do it too if I followed their formula, right?

In theory, yes, but reality is much more complicated than that. These other women were very ‘old guard’ in their approach to Domination. Sadistic. Manipulative. Cold. They were cruel authoritarian figures who could scold you at every turn until it feels like there’s nothing in the world that you could do right. I loved watching them work, just soaking in how they could cut a man down and show him his rightful place underfoot.

But I burnt myself out trying to force those cruel words out of my mouth and struggled to keep my expressions stern and cold. There’s a natural joy that can’t be kept from spreading across my face whenever I know that I turn someone on. I’m sure you can imagine how that didn’t quite fit with the Domina persona I was trying to build…

It took me a very long time to accept that I could still portray myself as fun, loving, and comforting, as well as dominant. Just because I hadn’t seen much content like that available yet, didn’t mean that people weren’t looking for it! So I pivoted away from the scary sadist persona to embrace the gentleness and tenderness that I prefer.

And what a difference it’s made! I think that it really shines through that I’m having fun and enjoying myself now, which in turn leads to my clients also enjoying their time with me more too!

Are you ready to take a look at some of my favorite encouraging clips? Check these out:

Encouraged by My Tits

mp4 • XX minutes

I know you don’t -really- need any more encouragement to jerk that meat of yours, but I look so hot with my delicate hands squeezing my big supple breasts and I love to watch you squirm to keep your orgasm under control as you watch me play with my tits. Can you hold back while I enjoy stripping off my clothes? Will you spurt when I pinch my nipples? Better not. I’m not finished enjoying myself yet.

I Love Being Your Porn

mp3 • 13 minutes

I know you look at me online. I know you look at pictures of me, videos of me. I know you perv to me and stroke your dick to me. I know you cum to me. It’s ok. It really is. I won’t tell anyone. It’s our secret. While you’re listening to this, pull up your favorite photos or videos of me. Play with that beautiful dick of yours and listen to me count down just for you.

A Message To My Lucky Boy

MP3 • 38 minutes

Hello, lucky boy. Using only my sultry voice, I am going to fuck you. Can you imagine a mind being so dirty, it can get you off without a single touch?
There are only two rules that you have to follow when you listen to this file. The first is: do as I say; if I tell you to picture something, do it, if I tell you to get in a certain position, do it. The second rule is: no touching your cock. You’ve got to let it free.

Sometimes a simple shift in perspective is all it takes to achieve a much-needed release. And giving myself the space to explore freely, instead of being stifled by preconceived notions, has led me to grow in pleasantly unexpected ways. Every day that I practice this, I feel surer and more confident in my abilities.

Below, I’ve included a list of ways that I try to make a conscious effort to ENCOURAGE my clients during a session.
And I would like to CHALLENGE YOU to take a look at examples like this in your own life and see how your attitude shifts when you bring in more encouragement to your life!

Instead of SHAMING for these things:

Let’s ENCOURAGE with these:

Self Image: Talking down about physical attributes like size, shape, weight, height. Some common themes would be SPH, fat shaming, body hair, body odors

Acknowledge short comings without dismissing them and search for ways to make them “excel” at having those traits. Can they be the teeny-tiniest? Can they be the smelliest, the hairiest, the hungriest? The best at being the worst _____ I’ve ever seen.

Sexual Prowess: Shaming for lack of sexual experience or confidence with regards to approaching women or men sexually. Most often they’ll self-identify themselves to me as virgins, cuckolds, or beta bitches.

Be excited at the prospect of teaching them the ‘proper’ way (MY way). Treating them like a blank canvas that I have full control over. Making contests to see if they can beat my techniques with my alpha studs.

Stamina: Being ridiculed for being unable to appropriately sexually satisfy either Me or their partner. These would often be ‘one pump chumps’, guys with ‘useless’ dicks, and CBT enthusiasts.

Challenge them to try to entertain me with their creativity before they receive gratification, if I’m aware of the situation beforehand. If not, then pushing them to continue anyways or focus on cleanup as a way to entertain me.

Sexual Orientation: Focusing on social stigmas against homosexual fantasies. Sissies interested in feminization, bi-curious folks and people who aren’t out to others or even to themselves yet

Act as a mentor, to teach them how to be as beautiful and sexually alluring as I am. Teaching, guiding and lifting them up as they aspire to be on My level.

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Gentle Guidance

siteadmin — Thu, 18 Jun 2020 15:36:19 +0000

It’s all a matter of paying attention, being awake in the present moment, and not expecting a huge payoff. The magic in this world seems to work in whispers and small kindnesses.
-Charles de Lint

Even if we resist it sometimes, everyone in this world can benefit from a little guidance.
Sometimes people come to me with a specific goal in mind for what they want to be encouraged to complete, but most often, I see people who aren’t sure of what they need and don’t know where to start.

That’s when I employ a soothing voice, a soft whisper in your ear, to encourage you to go juuuuuust a little bit further with me. I walk you along one step at a time, instead of racing full steam ahead into something you’re unprepared for.
I like to sweetly nudge at the boundaries of a standard vanilla session and pay attention to where I see a reaction while I playfully tease or toy. I’ve found it to be a much more enjoyable experience to make these discoveries slowly and carefully, instead of barreling along into the depths of a kink that you had only been tip-toeing in so far.

Yes, there is a place for harsh and stern Dominas whose cold exteriors match their deliciously sadistic tendencies and their perfectly accessorized latex outfits. In the past, I’ve tried it on for size (and looked fabulous if I don’t say so myself…) but the inherent intimidation and aloofness that comes along with that kind of authoritarian trope just wasn’t for me.
In essence, I want our time together to be fun and enjoyable, so if I were to try to turn your fantasies against you and reinforcing the shameful feeling around your deepest secrets, that would be counter-productive. I’d much rather build you up, nurture your fantasies, and encourage you to explore them in a safer way with me.

Below, I’ve selected a few of my favorite files where I explore boundaries and guide you to try something that may be new to you. If you’ve been struggling and aren’t sure if you are ready to take one of your fantasies a step further, I’d recommend that you take some time to relax and listen to my voice.
Hopefully, you’ll be pleasantly surprised with our little adventure together!

Guided Relaxation with Kaylee

mp3 file • 40 minutes

The stress of your daily life is just too much for you to take and I know that you’re looking for that perfect, sheer relaxation. I found that there is no better way to reach it than through sexual satisfaction. I do not want you to move a muscle, though. I want you to get your sexual satisfaction hands free. Are you ready to be guided by Me?

Moan for Me, with her next to you

mp3 file • 18 minutes

Risk and reward play a big part in arousal. How much risk will you take for the reward? Breathe, relax, and sink into the fantasy of Me and you, and her asleep. Will she wake while I take what I want from you? Will you be able to control yourself long enough for the pleasure to subside? Shhhh stay quiet, until you can’t anymore!

First Time CEI

mp4 file • 7 minutes

It’s time to confess to me. It’s going to feel so much better once you say it: “I want to eat my own cum”. Let me guide you through this confusing part of your life and help encourage you to become what you were always meant to be.

You may be wondering about how to explore this style of domination further, and that’s normal, especially if you’re only used to the media portrayal of a Domme as a harsh and authoritarian fetishist. Some keywords/tags that I find helpful to add on to your searches for files with this theme are:

Encouragement
Gentle Femdom (or shortened to GFD)
Soft
Sweet
Sensual
Comforting
Good boy

For example, the search results for “Femdom JOI” and “Sweet Femdom JOI” would be drastically different styles. Or, something like “Small Penis” would usually bring up SPH files, but changing it to “Small Penis Encouragement” completely alters the search results.
What kind of combinations can you come up with? What about something like “Sensual Pegging for Good Boy”? Try it out for yourself!

Lastly, I’d like to challenge you to think about the people in your everyday life who have taken a gentle approach to guidance. Maybe it was a teacher, a mentor, a co-worker, a friend, or even a stranger. What kind of impact did that person make on your life, and do you find yourself smiling when you think about them now?

It may seem silly to some for an online domme like myself to want to impact your life, but that’s exactly what I aim to do! I love the idea that I’ve made a lasting impression on the people who’ve played with me and that I’ve brought joy and insight into an aspect of your life that you may not share with very many people.
Plus I love the idea that you’ll be thinking about me over and over again every time you slip a little bit deeper into your fantasies….

Sweet and Seductive

siteadmin — Thu, 18 Jun 2020 14:13:27 +0000

“That soft seduction of need and want, an equation of dependence that eases under the skin, so slow and sweet, only to lay a man open at the very time he most needs his strength.”
– Mark Lawrence, Prince of Thrones

It’s no secret that I love attention. I want it. I crave it. I thrive when I get it. So when I say that I love to seduce my clients, it’s because I know that they’ll be handing over their full attention to me.

Even if they don’t intend to, day in and day out I know they’ll be daydreaming about how they want to please me, or what they’ll offer as tribute, or when they’ll be permitted to lay eyes on me again. That sweet ache and the tiny rush that surges through your body when a memory of me sweeps across your mind — it feeds my soul.

Something I didn’t expect when I started my Domme career, is how many people love to be fully aware of their seduction. They’d offer no resistance as I turn on my charms and would welcome the idea of being swept up in a whirlwind of emotions that I tinkered with for my own amusement. Previously, I was used to leaving a wake of blissfully ignorant people behind me while I soaked it all up.

So what are some of the ways that I noticed these people making the most of their experience? Hopefully, you’ll be able to employ some of these ideas as well and change the way you think about the art of seduction…

1. Know your intention

Recognize that you’ve sought my professional services out to experience My seduction on you, not to try to convince me that I need to be with you.
This should be a space where you let go, relax, and just enjoy the experience. Suggestions are helpful to set the tone or themes for our sessions, but if you find yourself trying to control or persuade me, you’re missing the point.

2. Slow your expectations

There’s certainly a place for fast and furious wank sessions, but that kind of smut isn’t going to leave the same kind of lasting impression as a carefully crafted, highly personalized and detailed experience.
It takes time to help you wind your way through all five senses, as well as mental barriers that may be keeping you from surrendering yourself to me. And part of the satisfying nature of seduction, is that it can be barely detectable, until it’s not.

3. Show your enthusiasm

I understand that not everyone is able to do live cam sessions with me, so I don’t always have your facial expressions, body language or audio cues to inform our time together. But that doesn’t mean that there aren’t ways for you to share how you’re feeling.
Leave comments on videos you’ve purchased, or send a private message with a tribute. These small things are a great way to let me know what you like, or what you wish went differently.

Now you may be asking yourself,
why does she even think this ‘art of seduction’ stuff is important?

Well, it’s what separates a quick wank clip that you’ll forget about 20 minutes after your post-nut clarity, from a full-on experience that has the potential to stay with you for a lifetime. And it’s exactly that lifetime’s worth of memories that I’m striving for when I create and curate my content for you.

I love to dig in and find out what kinds of things leave lasting impressions on you. Will it be something as simple as the sound of a kiss and the shape of my lips? Or perhaps the way the sunlight hits a curve along my back, or maybe a breathy whisper of “Good boy” in your ear after a particularly long day. Myself, I’m extremely fond of the power of a perfectly timed smile.

I’ve found that sometimes simplicity is key, especially when it comes to resetting and re-framing your needs. In order to better center your thoughts and your attention, I like to go back to the tools I was naturally given: my feminine body, my musical voice and my creative mind.

Now take a look at these clips where I use only my body, voice and creative mind to bring you closer to the edge of seduction. Let me know what you noticed about your reactions while you watched, and whether there was something that really clicked with you!

Goddess Strips and Make You Weak

MP4 • 14 minutes

I know that you can’t resist me. You always come back to see more of me. You’re so predictable, just like every other desperate loser. That’s ok, I love watching you waste away in front of me! Turn off your brain as I allow you to watch me strip. Forget everything else and become my worshiper as you watch me peel away my clothes. I’ll reveal my true self to you and you’ll finally see that you were always meant to be here worshiping at my feet. Will I grant you a blessing at the end?

Who Knows Best? GFE

MP3 • 11 minutes

You get SOOO worked up over every little thing but I know that you’ll be putty in my hands the second I start to run them along your crotch. So I’m going to take advantage of your little mood swing and send some banter back to you. I bet you’d even let me degrade you by taking my big fat tits out and making you suckle on them in my lap. You like that, don’t you, you big special boy?

Goddess Gives Silent Kisses

MP4 • 5 minutes

Ever since you saw me smile, my lips have been on your mind. You dream about kissing my lips, tasting them. When I bite my lip, it drives you wild and my wet pink tongue send you over the edge. I’ll indulge your fantasy today and let you watch me as I smile, lick my lips and pucker up my lips into soft kisses for you. It’s like a dream come true for you, isn’t it?

I’d like to leave you today with a challenge: Think about a time in your life when you were seduced by a woman. Reflect on the grip she had on you. Did that woman seize that power and toy with you, or did she even notice what kind of a powerful hold she had?

Now can you imagine what I’d do with all of that power?? I’m sure the first thing I’d do is… smile

Why I Am An Online Domme

siteadmin — Mon, 11 May 2020 22:43:05 +0000

“When people go to work, they shouldn’t have to leave their hearts at home.”
-Betty Bender

I get asked a lot “Why do you do this? Don’t you want a ‘normal’ job?” I don’t mind being asked, and actually I’ve had quite a few ‘normal’ or ‘vanilla’ jobs so far in my lifetime, but none of them have called to me as much as online sex work has.

I’ve naturally excelled in school, in university, in retail, in call centres, in offices, and so on, but those places have always felt limiting. It was as if I was presenting a side of my personality that didn’t actually line up with who I know myself to be. But I stuck with those vanilla jobs for longer than I should have, frankly… And that’s because at my very essence I am a collector of information.

Gaining new skills, new knowledge and new resources from all kinds of areas whenever I was learning allowed me to be happy for a time. But, as most people who dredge through the workforce know, there isn’t much room for continual growth. It always stops some time. So, I was often disheartened by watching the mediocrity of my peers.

Once the novelty of acquiring a new skill had worn off and familiarity set in, I would start to feel antsy. And it was in those moments that I would especially notice that the people surrounding me didn’t actually know me at all.

They had only ever seen the polite, hard-working, focused front that I put on when absorbing information. What aspects of my actual personality I could safely divulge to my peers? Not very many of my interests are office appropriate and I’ve already spent enough time hearing unsolicited opinions about my body and my sexuality. Every day I worried about if I would share too much with someone who I shouldn’t have trusted, just because they were there beside me every day. And that’s no way to spend my time. I knew I could do better for myself.

So I took a leap and decided to focus my efforts on developing my skills as an online performer.

Years of retail work had left me with a strong customer service skill set. And even if I wanted to pummel most of the skeezy creeps who came in to ‘chat’ with my fellow shop ladies, I always managed to make them part ways with their money and leave with a smile on their face. It was a fun little game to see how creative I could be, so that I could make the whole experience of purchasing something in my store memorable for them.

Naturally, I thought I could just apply the same process to my phone and cam shows. These guys already knew that’s what they wanted from me: something memorable, something creative, something hot enough to make them want to hand over all their money to me.

But what I hadn’t planned on was how much I liked it once I started. Not just the freedom of self-sufficiency, or the creative license it afforded, or the incredibly sexy dress-code, but I found that I just can’t get enough of hearing about my clients’ desires.

There’s something fascinating, and also incredibly liberating, about the secrets that people are willing to divulge to me when we play together.

All the little desires that have been tucked away tightly in the monotony of day-to-day life, they’re suddenly allowed to be unfurled and explored without judgement.

I love to see the unfiltered side of people when they’re excited about their fantasies being accepted. Seeing a smile break across someone’s face for the first time… It always feels like a special moment and I can’t help but smile too, every single time.

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My Kinky History

siteadmin — Mon, 11 May 2020 22:32:48 +0000

Where did you get your start as an online domme?

I started doing online domme sessions in 2017 after being shown the phone-sex website “Niteflirt” by my real-life girlfriend TristynJane. With her advice, I was able to build my listing and turn on my phone lines for the very first time. Since then, I’ve taken hundreds of calls, expanded to several platforms that include live-streaming, photos, mp3 files, videos and texting.
While she was the first to introduce me to the ins and outs of being a pro-domme, Tristyn wasn’t the first partner to introduce me to kink. I’ve been part of the lifestyle for over 10 years, however most of my experiences back then were actually as a submissive.

So you haven’t always been a dominant?

No, I haven’t. I moved around a lot during college, university and again after graduation. And I found that I shed off a little more of my submissive persona each time that I changed my surroundings and relationships.
I realized recently that I applied the ‘sub’ label to myself back then, not because I was naturally submissive, but rather because I didn’t feel like I was knowledgeable enough to hold any authority over someone else. After being left to feel frustrated by too many dominants, I realized that actually yes, I -can- do it better than they could, and I haven’t looked back.

Do you think that your past experiences help to inform your style of domination now?

Absolutely, I think they do. One of the biggest themes of my frustration as a sub was a lack of immersion. I found that whoever was leading the session would get hung up on some small detail which felt insignificant to me.
For example, I used to gravitate towards riggers because of the incredibly tactile nature of rope, but usually just ended up being bored while they fussed with hitches and flattened out wraps without engaging me. While the end result was pretty, I could have been a mannequin and the scene wouldn’t have changed in any way.
So now, I try my hardest to engage with the mind of my subs first and foremost, and let the physical sensations follow.

Is there a way you would try to classify your style of domination now?

I like to consider myself an “Optimistic Goddess”, which is mostly due to my affinity to bring us both into the same mindset during a scene. Putting a sub down to make myself feel superior isn’t what I’m about. I’d much rather lift someone up and encourage them, so that we can both leave a session feeling fulfilled.
That’s not to say that I can’t pull out a mean-streak of humiliation when someone approaches me looking for that, but rather that I’m going to hype them up into being the best fucking wreck that they can be.

Is there something that you thought you would like before trying it, but it turned out that you never want to do it again?

That’s tricky, especially because I set myself some pretty straightforward limits when I started out online and I’ve stuck to them. And I’m also limited in a way by the platforms that I use, because they all have strict code of conduct guidelines that I follow, so a lot of those areas are out of the question anyway.
In my personal kink life, I’d say that it’s definitely needles that I can’t stand after trying them. I used to admire all the beautiful patterns and get excited whenever someone would bring out a surgical stapler or something, but it’s best left as a fantasy for me. I’ve spent quite a lot of time around heavy RACK kinksters, but as soon as there’s skin puncturing, it’s over for me.

Do you have any role models who have influenced you?

Yes, definitely and in more areas than you might think.
AmberlyPSO is such an inspiration to me as a BBW model and I feel really lucky stumbling across her content at the moment that I did. I downloaded her book on Amazon when I was feeling overwhelmed and unsure if I should make the jump to making this my full-time career. Since then, I’ve watched her expand her reach, and generously give her time and advice on how to apply marketing strategies to our industry. She’s also an incredibly positive person who has an obvious passion for what she’s doing.
Bryan Gozzling of Hookup Hotshot has such a great vibe in his videos too. I think the approach to the scenes he films is really quite unique. I love seeing him actually checking in with his models who can end up doing some pretty intense shit for him. I love to watch him reinforcing his dominance through reassurance and praise because the smiles on the models’ faces always give away how much they’re enjoying themselves.
And there are so many Reddit users that I love to gather inspiration from too. I’m always amazed at the creativity and talent that I find there. Whenever I’m at a loss for what to create, I can always count on r/GoneWildAudio to deliver.

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My Turn-Ons

siteadmin — Mon, 11 May 2020 22:03:20 +0000

Having all eyes on me while I show off my beautiful curves.
Feeling the buzz of my powerful toys.
Watching you squirm while you try to contain your excitement.
And of course, testing you on how well you think you know what makes me hot.

How does one even boil down all of their turn-ons into a neat little list?
If it were that easy to know everyone’s exact combination, the world would be a better, happier, more satisfied place. But there are so many subtle nuances and little surprises when it comes to what makes me wet, that to rattle them off here in a tidy numbered list seems impossible…

Being a sensual creature by nature, my sex-drive thrives when all five senses are engaged: sight, smell, sound, taste, touch. When I’m at a loss for inspiration, I always go back to basics and work on describing what I am (or want to be) experiencing through my senses. Combining and contrasting different ideas like sharp/squishy, sweet/bitter, hot/icy or gooey/hard are a great way to immerse us both.

Plus, I find it incredibly satisfying to use all kinds of delicious adjectives in such a lewd manner. I love to fantasize about all sorts of scenarios and I like hearing filthy words come out of my mouth, letting them flow in the moment and spilling forth without a filter.

Sometimes I surprise myself at what I can come up with in the heat of a moment, especially since people have always been describing me as ‘quiet’ while I was growing up. I guess it never crossed anyone’s mind that I didn’t say anything because all my thoughts are nsfw

It’s not just my own words that I like to hear; I also love it when my submissive isn’t afraid to join in and build on the dirty talk, or even just to honestly express their reactions. I love to make them squirm and pant and drool, watching as their desperation builds. It makes me very happy to reward good subs who aren’t afraid to hold back their emotions and show how horny they get for me.
Seeing the excitement my submissives have when their fantasies are being played out, is immensely satisfying. I love to hear a sub confess what their desires are and then generously grant them the opportunity to indulge.
I enjoy seeing a sense of relief pour out from them after they’ve shared their desires, so I try to make sure that positivity and encouragement are at the root of everything I do.

There’s something incredibly alluring about a submissive who knows their limits too, or who isn’t afraid to express that they’re inexperienced with an aspect of a fantasy they want to explore.
I am always pleasantly surprised when speaking to a new submissive who comes prepared to discuss their interests and who is capable of respectfully relaying the important information needed to fully enjoy our time together.

One of the common lines I hear from prospective subs is “anything you want”, and while in theory this might sound like what every domme yearns to hear, it’s actually incredibly frustrating not to have a jumping off point when starting a session.

I have to acknowledge that all of my most successful toe-curling sessions have started with open communication and respect. A polite submissive, who values my time and understands the importance of respectful negotiation, will always have an advantage over someone who treats their domme as a fetish dispenser. And being engaged and open to new creative directions is the best way to turn me on and leave me basking in the afterglow of my best orgasms.

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